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People of all ages, backgrounds and life circumstances are welcome to this work, which is especially powerful for those interested in transforming traumas through an integrated and embodied spiritual path. Together we’ll explore and clear the way for you to express your greatest health, inner alignment, and human potential.
We can use, as a working definition of trauma, any experience of deep isolation, and journeys of genuine transformation grow not in isolation, but in the presence of consistent support, true company and loving contact with those inner places yearning for integration. Most of the original distortions of our life force —usually leading to deep misunderstandings about our true identity— derive from the failures of our early developmental environment. If, in those precious early years, we do not experience being seen, supported or connected with (much less, being neglected or abused), a variety of coping strategies are employed to manage and survive the pain. All-too common is a retreat to an inner world, shutting off the feeling senses while our natural life force closes down. Such trauma —and even (perhaps karmic) intergenerational trauma— is a given for all of us on some level, and the inevitable shocks we experience along our developmental path rob us of a deep, crucial innocence and trust in Life, God, and other people, as well as ourselves… often leading to difficulties in our subtle system’s ability to repair itself and return to its natural baseline of healthy resources.
Human beings tend to internalize and blame themselves for the breaking of this trust, inculcating negative thought patterns like, “I am bad, wrong, deficient or lacking in some way.” This, of course, tends to further fragment and disempower us, creating perceptions of reality that are self-deprecating. Constricting mental/emotional energies follow and our biology responds, reciprocating with the creation of an inner climate of stress. Such negative feedback loops can run infinitely, taking us ever-further from our center of truth. These deep black holes of depleting self-worth rob more and more energy from the system, often creating addictions, ill health and, as it continues, the wider social malaise we see all around us. Within such conditions we can recognize deep, systemic, emotional/biological consequences desperately in need of resolution.
The longer this goes on, the more we identify with this pattern as who I am, as it becomes more and more a crisis of mistaken identity. And our culture feeds on these vulnerable states, which is perhaps the greatest tragedy… but none of this can be interrupted with mental concepts, spiritual platitudes or more consumerism! Have you noticed how incredibly annoying, unsatisfying and isolating it is when someone tries to feed you something in this manner, when what you truly want is some authentic empathy and real company? We need to re-discover our intrinsic wholeness through a relational, neuro-affective and corrective context.
The truth is, there is nothing inside your experience that cannot be met with love, kindness, warmth and respect. While you are learning to develop this unconditional dignity in yourself, consider that what you may need most is the loving, wise company of true presence. The rejected, judged, isolated places that we’ve not yet learned how to love and evolve through continue to generate feelings that something is wrong, wounded or missing. On the contrary! What feels blocked, stuck and unwanted is exactly what is needed to reveal the door to our magic.
We just need a safe place to feel, all the way through the emptiness of that black hole, to flourish and bring forth what is alive within what seem to be real obstructions. Sometimes it’s too scary to open this door alone… like our inner child being in the dark alone with the boogieman under the bed. Sometimes all we need is someone to turn on the light, and sit with us as we look to see what is actually under the bed. Eventually, we can create enough safety and trust to provide this for ourselves.
Maturing into your embodied wholeness and more objective adult-awareness —integrating your story by transforming your life’s traumas and losses into a kind of inner, alchemical medicine— requires growing your capacity to stay present with a larger range of sensory perceptions, feelings and core emotions. As you develop this capacity more and more, your core resources reveal themselves as a new baseline. Connection, attunement, trust, autonomy and a healthy love, sexuality and aliveness emerge.
Through my study in Neuro-Affective Relational Model (NARM), I came to understand and articulate what these core resources are, and I truly love supporting people in their rediscovery. No matter how intense the trauma or unresolved history, I have repeatedly experienced a dimension of being where our inherent dignity, sovereignty and connection to our True Nature abide. Tapping into the Source Spring inside our body allows the undernourished and fragmented aspects of ourselves —which have been so busy surviving and compensating— to come home to the unconditional warmth of our core, where our True Nature is most tangibly felt.
The art to this approach requires a vigilance against our tendency to use spirituality as a way to bypass and disassociate from the body —from hurts of the past that continue to color our present— while also avoiding negative perceptions of self, other and world… traps that arise through misidentification. Along with this gentle sheathing, you’ll receive deep support in exploring the primacy of your essential ground, safety and trust— where your internal circuitry will grow and you’ll rediscover the presence of your deepest truth and present-time, objective awareness.
It is my pleasure and true honor to “hold your hand” as you cross the tenuous bridge from mental concepts and future projections into a fully-embodied sense of reality that can be tangibly felt in the living Now. Our loving attention will be brought to anything that appears to be blocking the way, as you turn toward the light and power of your soul essence. In this way, you will discover the agency that has always been your birthright, and you will co-create with Spirit, from this place of surrender and connection to your core self-awareness, the Life that you know you were born to Live.
Through highly-attuned, compassionate one-on-one attention, I will meet you where you are, and as the deeply safe quality of contact between us grows you will re-discover how to provide this for yourself. You will also receive and develop new embodiment skills, crucial for navigating all areas of your life and resulting in a more consistent and satisfying intimacy and stability. Each session will be uniquely guided by your inner intelligence and what is present for you at the time of our meeting. Though there are many modalities I could employ, I choose to enter our space without agenda, listening devotedly to you instead —your body and emotions— and simply being present and allowing a space of true support to organically emerge. My experience has taught me that the body/mind knows how to self-correct and evolve itself, and that all that is truly needed is an environment of unconditional love, true contact and essential space.