I hope this message finds you happy, healthy, grounded, and in touch with your aliveness, amidst the increasing acceleration of the times we are living in. I wanted to check in and ask, how are you? How’s the view from your spot in the collective wave we are all riding?
What has my attention is Purpose with a capital P. I don’t think I am the only one either. Ordinary, run of the mill unconscious purpose drives us to survive and consumes our lives with the chop wood, carry water, do-the -laundry mechanics of what’s required. Yes, these day-to-day activities can be imbued with our enlightenment, but only when we are coming from a particular kind of purpose, which I’m calling embodied purpose: a soul-humming, alive and aligned moment-to-moment quality of intimacy with Life. Intimacy from the inside out begets the sense of being awake inside of this lucid dream we call the “self.”
For me, rich flavors of gratitude mixed with the sober spice of my own mortality swirl together as a deep, all-abiding awareness. This sensation serves as an inner compass, letting me know that I am moving in alignment with my purpose. The intimacy I feel with myself and all of life is the fuel at the heart of my purpose. Thus I’ve coined the term, Intimate Purpose.
Being in private practice and offering group retreats and workshops in the transformational arts field for over 25 years, my primary focus has been on helping people with psychological and spiritual development and embodiment. My passion is helping people get comfortable in their own skin by resolving traumas from the past that have kept them bound in time and unable to be present to the gifts of participating fully in the now of their lives.
What I have come to see is that underneath all of the psycho-spiritual impetus to grow, evolve, heal and embody our wholeness is a deep desire to feel the intimacy that only being on purpose can provide. It is our primary relationship; our dharma (as it is called in eastern traditions) that ultimately is the fruition of all of our inner work. To contribute our unique gifts and be of service to others is the ongoing maturing process of becoming a fully adult human being.
Many people spend their lives tragically cut off from this sense of inner guidance and end up endlessly searching and seeking on the outside, trying to be satisfied with the facsimile of success. True fulfillment wont come through defining ourselves in terms of rigid, fixed images, titles or roles.
“I am a mother, or father, husband or wife, real estate agent, lawyer or CEO of a successful company.” These all may be true and we may even experience great “success” or “accomplishment” in the eyes of the world, and yet deep down, we may feel empty, isolated or even depressed if these “accomplishments” are not connected to a sense of inner fulfillment that can only come from being intimate with our true purpose.
Plenty of research these days reveals a huge shadow side of people being driven by careers without purpose, and the impact on their health, intimate relationships and inner sense of peace and happiness. There are even greater and more detrimental costs to this. The infinite horrors of our current world stage are in full display of this fact, to name just a few examples, the rise of anti-depressants, divorce, violence, homelessness and addictions of all kinds to numb the pain of this disconnection.
If you are following me so far, I know that I do not need to go on and on about the hell of this cost. You know it personally and all too intimately yourself.
Purpose is as ancient as your very existence. And yet, the intensity of the times we are living in is calling forth a call to action, a call to be on purpose like never before. The literal survival of our planet depends on it. Each of us has a unique destiny to fulfill that only we can do. Think about how different the history and therefore the present of our world would be if Martin Luther King had not followed the calling in his heart to do what he knew was his to do…
Think about the people alive now or no longer who you consider to be your heroes. How different would your life be if those people had not influenced and inspired you?
What do Jesus, Buddha, Mohammed or any of the great masters of our time have that is not also a seed planted deep in the garden of our own hearts, waiting to blossom and bloom our own sweet nectar of powerful influence into this world?
We each have a responsibility to discover, align with and live out our unique, most intimate and passionate purpose with existence.
This is why the art of fulfillment is so unique for everyone. It requires a quality of intimacy and deep listening to be able to attune to ourselves beyond our image or place in our family or society. As Mark Nepo says, “To know who we are, not by surface markers of identity, not by where we work or what we wear or how we like to be addressed, but by feeling our place in relation to the Infinite and by inhabiting it. This is a hard lifelong task, for the nature of becoming is a constant filming over of where we begin, while the nature of being is a constant erosion of what is not essential. Each of us lives in the midst of this ongoing tension, growing tarnished or covered over, only to be worn back to that incorruptible spot of grace at our core.”
This takes courage. Courage is a heart word. The root of the word is “cor”, the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant “To speak one’s mind by telling all of one’s heart.”
Im not talking about this being some kind of end game either, where you finally arrive to a place called, ” Purpose” and you’re done. No, once you find this new baseline of feeling intimacy in your core- it’s an announcement of your participation in the creation of your reality. It’s the beginning of a moment-to-moment responsibility to ask the question, “What’s the most important thing for me to do right now?”And now, and now… It’s akin to finding your own slipstream in the great river of life and allowing your purpose to be your guide and rudder.
Thank you for taking the time to read my blog. If I have piqued your curiosity and you would like to explore more on this topic, please refer to my signature course, Embodied Leadership Solutions or the Bridge your Gap page offerings on my site. Or feel free to send me an email to open up a private conversation.